A 16 year old girl in the throws of romantic drama. First flutters of love, getting hurt, anger, sadness, regret, deciding if someone should be given another chance and then she said… ‘it is like I would need to give up a piece of my soul to do it’.
The clarity of what we should not do. Knowing that we can take a certain action, but we would pay a heavy price. We would be going against what we believe in, what we know to be true to us.
At what age do we start to know what is right for us? Are we born with it? A template as unique as our DNA to help us decide which steps to take and which to allow pass us by.
More interestingly, when do we lose the connection with this knowing, the captain of our ship? How many times have you been in a situation where you are overthinking what you should do, debating with family and friends and at the end still saying ‘I don’t know’? But we do know. We all know.
It’s what matters most. It’s what lives in our heart and soul. It’s what speaks to us, sings to us, makes us feel alive and allows us to fly. They are the things that make you want to get up in the morning, jump out of bed and grab hold of the day. They can be referred to as values, beliefs, passions, strengths and much more, but when we access them, it creates an energy that propels us to make decisions, take action and change. We get closer to the life we want to live. Everything is more in tune.
As a journey it rarely runs smoothly. Someone will tell us it won’t work and that will awaken our own inner fears. We will experience a set back and again doubt and discomfort will raise their heads. But what if we see these things for what they are? Part of the journey, process. Inevitable when we are on a journey of change. Bumps on the road. Something to be experienced and overcome, but not to live in fear of. As these bumps slow us down use the time to review, take stock and see what’s the next best course of action.
When it comes to making decisions there are more models, flows and opinions out there than anyone could ever need. We have all used some, even as simple as making a list of pros and cons. These different techniques do help in making decisions and they can get us out of the mud, into movement and action, but are we just using them as aides as we’ve lost touch with our own knowing of what is right for us and what is not? Next time you are faced with a decision you are deliberating on why not take a moment in the stillness to listen to what your gut, heart or soul is saying? And take a leap of faith and follow that guide, the captain of your ship.